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Support your loved one unconditionally when they are unwell. Non-judgemental listening can be a huge help as can practical support e.g. driving them to appointments or cooking a nutritious meal.
It is essential to get a correct diagnosis, so encourage your loved one to see their GP or mental health professional if they have not already done so.
Depression and other mood disorders cause emotional disturbance for the individual: this will impact on relationships. Acknowledge this so that you can minimise the disruptive effect.
Seek accurate information about depression. Once you understand the symptoms and types of depression more fully, you are better placed to deal with it.
A three-person care team is the most effective way to deal with mood disorder: the individual, the doctor and a family member or close friend. The individual themselves may not be aware of certain aspects of his/her condition and the impact these have.
Remember that difficult behaviours are part of the condition. If you are upset by a remark or behaviour, try not to react with anger. It is better to address this upset after the depressive episode has passed, when the situation has diffused and open communication has been restored.
If you think your loved one may be suicidal, discuss this with him/her. This will not increase the risk of the person harming themselves, and indeed allowing them to discuss it with you may help to relieve some of these thoughts and feelings. If you or your loved one need help straight away, call our depression helpline on loCall 1890 303 302.
Remember that it is not your fault: you did not choose that your loved one develop this condition any more than they did so don’t allow a sense of guilt to dishearten you.
Self-care is essential, so endeavour to take time out for yourself and try to make time for the things that matter in your own life as well.
Access support services for yourself. It is important to mind your own health: it reduces your risk of mental health problems and also means you are better able to support your loved one. Our trained volunteers offer depression support by email if you need someone to talk to.